Posted on | Friday, January 13, 2012 | No Comments

At two-years old, my son is already obsessed with the gadgets I bring home from work. He knows my iPod Touch can play Elmo songs and has a Sesame Street app. He knows theChumby I use as an alarm clock also has games on it. But nothing prepared me for the day I brought an iPad home. He went nuts.
Years from now there will probably be a study detailing how much damage I'm doing to my kid by letting him play games and watch Sesame Street on my iPad, but for now, it's great to watch his face light up when I bring it in the room. I imagine there must be other iPad-toting parents out there in the same situation.
That said, I do worry that if I ever left my kid alone with the iPad (or any computer) for even a minute, he might find some disturbing content online. Hell, you can barely search for Sesame Street videos on YouTube without coming across someone lighting a Tickle-Me-Elmo on fire or remixing him into a gangster rapper.
Fortunately, the iPad (as well as the iPhone and iPod Touch) includes a set of restriction settings that parents can use to limit its access to the Internet and censor the playback of mature music and videos. To see how it's done, check out my How To video on CNET TV

5 Tips On How Do I Manage My Child To Learn Something?

Posted on | Monday, July 11, 2011 | 3 Comments

 Well, it seems you are in trouble to manage your child to learn something. It seems, you want to get your child to do his/her homework, but he/she is making mischief and don’t want to go the reading table. It seems, you are really tired to make pressure on your Childs to make them attentive on study to obtain a better educational result or certificates. That means, your overall child education system is messed?

To me, you often ask yourself like – But how? Is there any secret magic that’s why I see some other Child are doing well in educational result, in sports, in puzzles or quizzes or even in a Marathon race organized by the school but my child can’t? Actually why I am not being able to make my child as perfect as my expectation?
There are lots of reasons behind of the failure of all the attempts you took upon your child. If you want to see your child is succeeding, if you want to see that your child is reading, eating and even playing with joy and fun; then you have to attempt to follow some crucial steps that you usually don’t follow. The steps are given as below-

1. Ask Your Child Why He/She Is Reluctant To Read: It’s a great things that most of the mom and dad don’t do. You have to find out that why your childs are not wanting to read or why he/she is avoiding the today’s homework to do. He/she might have any problem. Or, he/she might like to do other things in this time. It may be. But you have to understand it. Or, you have to know by asking your child. If you just create pressure on your Childs to do the today’s task by ignoring his/her troubles or willing then you are definitely doing wrong. You can create pressure but the ultimate result will be zero.

2. Try To Understand Child’s Abilities: Research said, every student doesn’t have same ability to capture the same knowledge at a time. Sometimes a lesson takes too many times to learn for some students; whereas some other students may need less time to learn the same educational lessons. So, don’t compel your child to read more & more ignoring his/her pains. It’s indigestible. Don’t tell your child that – “I saw some guys who have completed this lesson within 10 minutes, why you can’t? It’s rude. And it’s harmful for your child and weakens your child’s mental health.

3. Childs Like To Moves; Don’t Stop These: Very few of the Childs in this world who are so much quiet in his childhood. They like to moves. They enjoy it. So, it’s not better to use this moving time technically? How? Suppose you want to teach your child how to learn the roman numbers. Well, just scatter several tiny balls on your whole room. And tell your child to pick these one by one. And tell her/him also that, when a ball will be picked, it will be number 1. And later, when the second ball will be picked, it will be number 11. So use their moving habits as a learning procedure. But never stops these to moving. It might stop the growing capabilities (Especially mind) of your child.
4. Give Them Time To Have Rest: Yeah! After completing every home task, they should have to given some time to take rest. And give them the freedom to do anything they want within the rest time. Childs will love it. Hence, next-time when your child will be given more educational task to do, he/she will be spirited by thinking that, If I can do this task properly,  a free time will be there for me. So, indirectly the educational task will be completed, even in most efficient and effective way.

5. Let Your Child Know That He/She Can: Research discovered that this kind of inspiration works as a tonic. It helps your child to stand strongly whenever he/she will be in hard troubles. If you can build an invisible spirit on your child that, he/she has enough power to conquer any kind of educational task, then in practically he/she will definitely have the persist to get a task done anyhow. So, don’t blame your child if any mistakes they done or if they fail somewhere, rather tell them that they have the power to conquer everything and next time they will do better. Ultimately the learning skill will be boosted up.
This is all about how to develop a child’s mind to make him/her a educational lesson or task to done properly. Use it practically. I am damn sure, you will get the results you expected.

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The Parenting Guide: What Your Children Need Most & How to Give It to Them


THE PARENTING GUIDE: What Your Children Need Most & How to Give It to Them
….on giving your child what they need from you:

“Showing love to your child in a way that he or she understands and believes they are special, valued, appreciated, and deeply loved by you is the goal. As with other relationships, loving someone means that you will put their needs ahead of your own to generate those feelings or beliefs within them. This is certainly true for children. You may not have had those things given to you as a child, but you can break that cycle of deprivation and give your child what he or she needs to thrive.”

“This doesn’t mean you give them everything they want. In fact, it would be most loving to deny them most of what they want—so they can develop maturity and the ability to be successful, resourceful adults. For example, putting their needs ahead of your own does not mean cooking them a different dinner if they don’t like what you prepared, or letting them sleep in your bed because they like it better, or allowing them to get out of doing their chores because they’ve mismanaged their time. Their “needs” should be seen as clearly different to you than their “wants”. Miniature human beings (children) very seldom want to do what they “need” to do to grow up successfully. They are all about doing what they “want” to do, which would cause them to grow up and be quite unhappy.
Your children will know if you love them enough to make the hard decisions—the decisions that create more work or hassle for you but ultimately are what the situation requires for them to learn a lesson, endure a consequence, etc.”

“Let’s be clear on one thing: being a great leader is not a personality contest. You should be a lot less concerned whether your children like or agree with your decisions and requirements, and put much more emphasis on executing your priorities, good judgments and actions in their best interest. Many parents make the mistake of chasing their child’s approval. Perhaps those parents are not feeling appreciated and validation from their work or their spouse, so they substitute the child’s favorable regard or affirmation. Since we already know children will act in the interest of what they “want” instead of what they “need”, this is a huge mistake for a parent to make.”
What’s your strategy for parenting? If you are too authoritarian and keep too much control over your child’s behaviors and decisions, they won’t know how to take over those jobs when it becomes their time to do so, and they lack confidence and can become incompetent. If you’ve spoiled them by allowing them to do mostly as they please, they develop a sense of entitlement and can’t handle the difficulty life will surely dish out.
Leadership requires setting the standards for behavior. Set the standards high. Let you children know you ‘expect’ a lot from them. Create an environment where they are accountable for their actions. Encourage initiative, helpfulness and keep your focus on the child’s behavior choices, judgments and attitude.”

A Structure of Reward and Discipline:
“If you find yourself yelling at the kids or becoming angry, you are not in control of the situation, and you’ve probably made five or six requests without success, and waited far too long to institute a punishment. Your frustration just got the better of you. Tighten it up. It’s easier on everyone if you do. Don’t ask repeatedly, getting angrier with each verbal volley. Ask twice then give a consequence.”
“The biggest mistake I see parents make is that when they get in a disagreement with a child—especially teenagers—they spend most of their time trying to persuade or convince the child to do what they’re asking. Generally you need to ask initially, unless you’re giving an instruction or making a statement. But either way, if you’re the leader, the authority figure, the one they should respect and obey, what you ask or tell should zoom to the top of your child’s ‘to do’ list.”
“The best way to create a stable, fair and loving home life for your children is to provide an environment where, as Dr. Phil says, “they can predict with 100% accuracy what the consequences of their behavior will be.” This means if they do the right things, make good choices and demonstrate mature, responsible behaviors, there should be rewards for those choices and actions. Remember, you’re more likely to see a behavior repeated which is rewarded.”
…on giving children what they need to take with them:

“Maturity is the ability to manage and resolve frustrated desires ALONE.
There are many immature adults running around the world, and since they are so handicapped by their inability to manage their emotions and frustrations, they tend to give up, bail out, avoid and run away from adult responsibilities and situations. This is the biggest reason there are as many divorces as there are. How you raise your children will affect them for the rest of their lives. Do a good job!
Set the rules, determine the consequences for failing to follow them, and consistently require your children to adhere to them. When they pout, become moody, self absorbed or disrespectful, demonstrate poor judgment or bad attitudes, provide lots of reasons why continuing that behavior would be a bad idea.
Allow them to manage their frustrations and come out on the other side with a resolution. When their grades, attitudes and judgments are mature and appropriate, praise them and reward those behaviors with benefits and positive consequences. When they excel at doing well, bonus them with more rewards. Mimic how life works so they won’t be surprised when they get out there on their own. Teach them how to be resourceful and independent.”

“Confidence and competence are two different things. To raise a child with a high level of competence they must experience success or mastery in the things they attempt to learn or accomplish. It’s not difficult. Confidence, as the dictionary will tell you, is the same as ‘self assurance, self-belief, self-reliance’. Knowing he or she is okay no matter what, or will be able to ‘figure it out’ on their own—and especially when things are tough, or NOT going their way—is the heart of confidence. As we have all experienced, it’s pretty easy to feel buoyant and full of yourself when things are going according to plan and not much is required of you. It’s quite another in the middle of a problem or stressful situation, or a challenge to have the calmness that comes with an inner knowing you’ll be okay in the end.”
“Parents can help their children develop this certainty and confidence by ‘testing’ their inner resources and challenging them to go past the limits of what they know or think they can do. This should happen in the context of school, socially, in their hobbies and recreational activities. Push the envelope—think outside the box, be creative, dig deep, have a ‘can do’ attitude and press on to the solution. This includes visualizing success and imagining the solutions. Teach your kids to do what successful people do: believe in yourself, assume the best, plan for the worst, and always set your goals high.”

“The ability to have feelings for, or understand the plight of another in need and respond to that situation with kindness, sympathy or assistance is one of the very best traits a human can have. Call it what you will; sensitivity, decency, thoughtfulness, consideration, empathy, insight, they all are hallmarks of a caring, decent person.”
“Notice how the perspective of considering the feelings, needs and thoughts of others is critical to being compassionate? The same skills needed to be a successful spouse and parent later in life are necessary to learn at a younger age. To do so is the building block of a rich and satisfying life.
In fostering compassion in your child, you will help them develop empathy, sensitivity, tenderness, tolerance and even mercy.”
… on Parenting Teenagers:
“If you have a teenager, your time to influence and shape their future is rapidly drawing to a close. Your teenager will be pulling further away from you, making more decisions on their own and putting into practice the lessons—good and bad—you’ve taught. They aren’t ‘all grown up’ yet… but they’ll be making more and more choices that have grown-up consequences. As we adults know only too well, a seemingly small or innocent decision can have very undesirable impacts or life-altering results. Teenagers haven’t perfected the art of thinking through the outcome of the decisions they make, and they need the independence to learn that which is learned best through experience.
“Having a bad attitude just seems to go hand-in-hand with being a teenager sometimes. But just so you’ll clearly understand, the temper tantrum they throw when they’re 3 is the same kind of defiance and bad attitude they display with the dreaded eye-roll and heavy, exasperated sigh. And if that ‘I’ve got one last nerve and you’re standing on it’ behavior is something you consider unwanted, consequence it. Acting like your parent is a moron, debating or challenging what an authority figure tells you is disrespectful and should be treated as such.”
“Having a good attitude about things is a sign of maturity. Learning to handle and then overcome their feelings or annoyances so they can do what is required of them is the skill you’re looking for them to develop. They’ll certainly need that skill in a job or in any serious relationship they ever have. Overcome feelings and act in the right way. What a great day when they master that! Then they’re ready for the benefits which come with maturity.”

“Contracts” – agreement of what is expected from both parties, rules for how to accomplish the expectations, and promises of performance. To be effective, contracts need to be a “win-win”— both sides need to benefit from participating.
“House Rules” – the ultimate family document with details to create stability and consistency
“Token Economy” – A fun system of multi-level rewards – motivate young children to produce good grades
and good behavior without nagging or reminding them!

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How Do Children Use Television?, How Are Children Affected by Television?

Posted on | Saturday, April 9, 2011 | 1 Comment

By 1999, 78 percent of homes with children and adolescents received at least basic cable, enabling children to grow up with a wide variety of general audience and child-oriented programming.

Television's introduction was accompanied by excitement and optimism, followed almost immediately by criticisms and concerns about its impact on children's development. Critics linked television to every ill effect from hyperactive toddlers to violent youth, prompting consideration of regulations for children's television. Changes in regulations have been fueled not only by political shifts but also by ongoing research on children's use of television and television's influences on children's development.

To understand television's potential impact on development, one must consider how much children watch television, how they direct their attention, and what they comprehend.


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